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Loving strictness

 

What’s the first thing that comes to our mind when we talk about heroes? Why do we consider someone a hero? Discipline wouldn’t come to most people’s mind first. This story shows, though, how expectations full of love and intentional parenting make heroes out of our parents.

To introduce my heroes, I must go back to my childhood…and I am lucky enough to think of my mum and dad as heroes. I was not a good kid at all. I did a lot of mischief, and I was also lazy and self-righteous.

Music was always important in my family. My dad is still the organist in our local church. My parents soon noticed my musical talent when I was a child, and they wanted me to improve it. Beside music, improving my school records became my other priority. My parents divided the tasks between them: my dad would assist my musical studies, and my mum would help me better my grades.

I found maths extremely difficult, and my mum sacrificed her whole summer to tutor me. Each day she worked with endless patience and devotion to make me understand the maths problems. I spent the second half of my day playing the piano. Dad sat with me every day; he didn’t leave my side for one minute. He pushed me, he was strict, we never missed a practice session. He believed in me. His rigour came from love, he knew that I could achieve a lot. How many times would he stand behind my back with a flyswatter in his hand, and when I got bored or lazy, he slapped my hand. He wouldn’t let me take it easy. To this day, I owe him my love and humbleness for music.

When I was 14, I moved to a dormitory because of my studies and I started to take lessons from a piano teacher; even then, Dad called me every day to encourage and motivate me to practice. When I visited home from the dorm, I played him all the pieces I’d learnt; I played the piano to my family a lot. To this day when I learn a new piece, I show it to my dad first, and I ask for his opinion. For me, music means baring my soul and feelings. I express my feelings trough songs if anything challenging comes up. I always turn to music in life and then all my problems vanish.

I owe it to my parents to be here today, and that I can teach and play music, sing and play the piano. I owe it to them that I am an emphatic, dedicated and patient man who takes his job seriously. They’ve done so much to help me get here, so I’m trying to pass onto my students the time and energy they have given me.

Dávid Varga

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