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Who I can always count on



Has it ever happened to you that your life seemed perfect but suddenly everything collapsed? When things go wrong it turns out who you can really count on. It is important to have someone to rely on, no matter what difficulties you come across.

After high school, I continued my studies in Pécs. I loved student life, the big city, the vibe, my mates at university and my new flat. I was very enthusiastic and in excitement, I was preparing to move. I think this is the time when we have to grow up. You get off the family home and you have to solve everything alone. I remember my first big challenge: at the beginning of September, I got some money from my parents and we agreed that I shall live on that till the end of the month. Needless to say, it was more difficult than I expected. A few weeks later, I had to call them and tell that I could not keep my part of the deal. Despite all difficulties, I loved to be there and take care of myself all on my own. 

I was lucky as I could choose who I want to live with. I chimed in with the people in my surrounding and shortly, we became friends. The four of us lived in the same flat and we were inseparable, we organized a lot of programs together. I still remember those many nights we spent with writing our essays helping each other. 

As I had some time, I started working in a café and I really liked it. It is true that colleagues and your relationship with them are very important. I always went happily to work. So all together, I was pleased with the way things were going. 

Unfortunately, not everything was this positive. The owner of the flat started to behave oddly. He decided that he no longer wants to care about the flat and about us. At the very end, he no longer let us know about the exact amount of the rent, so we fell behind with the payment. One day, he announced that he had sold the flat and the new owner did not want to lease it out, so we had a few days left to move out. I was very upset, because everything seemed so good and suddenly everything turned so bad. We didn't manage to find a new place where we could go, so everyone moved back home. I even fall out with one of my flat mates because of this anxiety. Moreover, I had to leave my job and I had to move back to my little village where I started from.

I felt that this was a huge step backwards, I did not want to live in that village again. I had no friends left as everyone started a new life at a new place as soon as it was possible. But I could always count on one of my childhood friends. We have always been friends since I can remember, and we could count on each other for better or worse. She was comforting me when everything seemed hopeless. It was a difficult period in my life but I learned a lot from it: it really turns out at sticky situation who you can really rely on. I had to get up from the ground, I had to stop feeling sorry for myself. I started working at a new place and recently, I got promoted. I had to rethink my life but I have faith in myself, I believe that I can do what I have planned.

The post was written by Vivien Balogh based on her discussion with Viktória Balog.

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